i'm having a graduation party on the 26th, and i invited my best friend and gave her notice of the date on the last week of school on tuesday (but she knew i was having one since april, and she seemed enthusiastic), but during grad rehersal on that friday, they passed out free tickets to the No Doubt/Blink 182 concert, which happens to also be on the 26th and also at night as my party.
3 days ago i found out she was holding gruges against me for things i didn't even know about and decided on going to the concert instead. now we argued a long bit and seemed to iron out those problems, but i told her this should have been delt with long ago, and that she doesn't have an excuse for doing that to me. hardly anyone has replied to go to my party, so i told her how dissapointed i was that she as my best friend would leave me hanging like that. and that if she did leave me still she could not rightfully call herself a best friend or even a good friend, for leaving me for a concert. i see it as, the concert is free so, she won't lose anything, and i would choose the party because of that fact. but also because i knew about the party first.
i argued with her a long time the last 2 nights, and she keeps aplogizing even though she's still going to the concert. it seems like she doesn't value our friendship because of her choosing our concert over me especially under the circumstances, but at the same time she stood there continually apolgizing not leaving, saying that i'm not unimportant. so i'm confused about this, she knows i can't call her a best friend or even a good friend and putting our friendship in jepordy, if she still goes to the concert, but she stays and puts up with me in my anger towards her. just confusing and upsetting.
now i know the obvious negative thing i can do, forget about her and lose her friendship. but i want to know of the positive things that i can say or do, maybe even convince her to still go to the party, i told her she's still invited. it's harder for me to think of the better things or any solutions since i'm this angry with her. thanks.
3 days ago i found out she was holding gruges against me for things i didn't even know about and decided on going to the concert instead. now we argued a long bit and seemed to iron out those problems, but i told her this should have been delt with long ago, and that she doesn't have an excuse for doing that to me. hardly anyone has replied to go to my party, so i told her how dissapointed i was that she as my best friend would leave me hanging like that. and that if she did leave me still she could not rightfully call herself a best friend or even a good friend, for leaving me for a concert. i see it as, the concert is free so, she won't lose anything, and i would choose the party because of that fact. but also because i knew about the party first.
i argued with her a long time the last 2 nights, and she keeps aplogizing even though she's still going to the concert. it seems like she doesn't value our friendship because of her choosing our concert over me especially under the circumstances, but at the same time she stood there continually apolgizing not leaving, saying that i'm not unimportant. so i'm confused about this, she knows i can't call her a best friend or even a good friend and putting our friendship in jepordy, if she still goes to the concert, but she stays and puts up with me in my anger towards her. just confusing and upsetting.
now i know the obvious negative thing i can do, forget about her and lose her friendship. but i want to know of the positive things that i can say or do, maybe even convince her to still go to the party, i told her she's still invited. it's harder for me to think of the better things or any solutions since i'm this angry with her. thanks.